DRAFT FOR THE CONSIDERATION OF THE GROUP CONSCIENCE
“The only requirement for Kindr membership is a desire to stop acting out in addiction.”
In Kindr, we open our arms to anyone who seeks freedom from addiction. This Tradition is the heart of our inclusiveness: no tests, no qualifications, no background checks. Whether a person has relapsed a hundred times or is newly sober, whether they are confident or uncertain, all that is asked is a desire to stop. That desire, however fragile, is enough.
Tradition Three protects us from judgement and exclusion. It ensures that no member, no Group, and no service body can deny someone a place in Kindr based on their past, their struggles, or even their current confusion. We have all been broken. We have all been lost. We remember that and lead with compassion. No matter how someone presents, if they want recovery, they belong.
Membership is not about perfection, performance, or understanding the Steps. Many of us arrived in rooms like Kindr barely able to sit still, trust others, or imagine a life without our addictive patterns. Yet we were welcomed. That welcome was the beginning of our healing. This Tradition safeguards that same welcome for every person who walks through the door after us.
Tradition Three also reminds us not to set ourselves above others. It warns against gatekeeping or measuring worth. In addiction, many of us were shamed, excluded, or deemed not good enough. We do not recreate those wounds here. Recovery is not a competition. It is a shared path, and every person on that path strengthens us.
In this fellowship, a desire to stop acting out is the only standard. We trust that if a person keeps coming back, honestly seeking recovery, change will come. We focus not on where someone has been, but where they are trying to go. Each member is free to define what “acting out” means for them, and each is encouraged to grow their understanding over time.
This Tradition also keeps us humble as a Group. We do not rescue or convert. We do not control who joins or how they do their work. We provide the space; the Higher Power does the rest. We keep the door open. Always.
Key Spiritual Principles in Tradition Three:
Inclusiveness – Every person who desires recovery is welcome, without judgement or condition.
Acceptance – We honour each member’s path, pace, and personal understanding of addiction and recovery.
Humility – We do not set ourselves above others, nor do we decide who is “ready” or “deserving.”
Compassion – We remember our own desperation and extend the same grace that was shown to us.
Faith – We trust that a desire for recovery, however faint, can be the spark that transforms a life.
DRAFT FOR THE CONSIDERATION OF THE GROUP CONSCIENCE