Kindr Queer Mens Recovery Group
Thursday Meeting Script
“Good evening Everyone and you are all very welcome to this closed Meeting of Kindr – A Queer Men’s 12 Step Recovery Group. My name is _________ and I am an alcoholic and/or addict and your Secretary for tonight’s meeting.”
The Kindr Preamble
“Kindr is a group of GBTQ+ Identifying Men who come together in 12 Step Fellowship to achieve a sober and clean life.
We endeavour to create a safe and respectful space where we work together to achieve freedom from our addictions. Our Meetings are free to attend and we are self-supporting through our own contributions.
As we come from different backgrounds we ask people to be mindful of the various addictions within our Group. Membership is open to all GBTQ+ Men who want to get and stay, clean and sober.
Our primary purpose is to stay sober and to carry the message to the still suffering addict.”
Welcoming the Newcomer:
“The Newcomer is the most important person at any meeting and if you are new to Kindr here today, you are most welcome. If this is your first Kindr meeting and you feel comfortable to do so, you are very welcome to introduce yourself to the Meeting just now.”
Format of the Meeting:
“Tonight’s meeting will be of one hour’s duration, it is a Newcomers meeting and will conclude at 8pm. We will read in rotation over a 4 week cycle from Step 1 in the AA 12&12, Step 1 in the NA Basic Text, Step 1 in the SLAA Basic Text and in week 4 Tradition 1 from the AA 12&12. Following the Reading we will then share on what we have heard.”
“I now invite __________ to begin tonight’s Reading.” (Reading duties can be shared by 2 or more members present.)
Opening the Meeting (after the Reading has finished):
“It is the Group’s wish that as many addicts as possible be afforded the chance to share at this meeting and with this in mind, we ask that you please be mindful of the length of time you share for. 4 minutes is suggested, as an approximate recommended time.”
“Should you prefer not to share, please feel free to say that you would prefer to just listen for tonight.”
“Please be mindful of the language you use while sharing as it can be triggering for others especially around how you reference particular behaviours, drug use and hook up apps, for example.”
“While we encourage you to find identification with what others share, we remind you that cross-talk is discouraged when sharing, as it can create an unsafe atmosphere within the meeting. Cross talk is when someone comments directly or gives their opinion on what someone else has shared.”
“I now invite you to share on tonight’s Reading, remembering to keep your focus on Recovery, the 12 Steps and on your own Experience, Strength and Hope.”
Tradition 7 & Newcomers Time (at 7:45 approx)
“In this Group we follow the 12 Traditions of 12 Step Fellowship, and, in accordance with Tradition 7, we are self-supporting through our own contributions. We will now take up a collection around the room. I will also share the details of our Revolut account on the Group WhatsApp page after the meeting, should you prefer to contribute in that way. All contributions are greatly appreciated and go towards the running costs of our meetings.” “While we take up the collection, I would like now to invite any Newcomers who are under 90 days sober if they would like to come in and share.”
If a Newcomer does come in at this time, it would be good to ask after they are finished “Are there any other Newcomers who might also like to come in now and share” If there are no Newcomers wanting to share, after a period of silence, the Secretary may indicate to the meeting that sharing is once again open to all present
Closing the meeting: (at 7:57 approx)
So that is all the time we have for sharing today, thank you everyone who’s made this meeting possible, I will now ask _________to read the “Kindr Responsibility Pledge”
We show that we are a responsible 12 Step Group by paying our rent, leaving the meeting room clean and tidy and most importantly, by introducing ourselves to the Newcomer.
Tradition 12 States that anonymity is the Spiritual foundation of all our traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities.
We will now close the meeting with the Serenity Prayer, for those who wish to say it, but before we do so can we please thank _________ for their chair.
All rise and join hands in a circle while the Secretary leads out the Serenity Prayer.