Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
Living with Integrity
Step Ten is about maintaining the progress we’ve made in recovery and living a life of accountability and integrity. Unlike the earlier steps, which focus on clearing away the wreckage of the past, this step is about staying present and ensuring that our actions align with the values we’re striving to live by.
Taking a personal inventory means regularly reflecting on our actions, thoughts, and behaviours. It’s not about perfection but progress—recognising when we fall short and promptly addressing it. This step helps us avoid slipping back into old patterns and ensures that we continue growing spiritually and emotionally.
The key to Step Ten is consistency. Whether done daily or as situations arise, this practice helps us stay mindful of our impact on others and our own emotional wellbeing. When we identify that we’ve been wrong—whether through impatience, selfishness, or dishonesty—we promptly admit it. This prevents guilt or resentment from taking root and keeps our relationships healthy and authentic.
For GBTQ+ people, Step Ten can be particularly empowering. By continuing to take stock of our behaviours and interactions, we build resilience and selfacceptance. It’s an opportunity to cultivate relationships that honour our true selves and to confront societal or internalised shame that may linger.
Questions for reflection in Step Ten include:
- How do you currently take stock of your actions and their impact on others?
- When was the last time you admitted you were wrong? How did it feel?
- Are there areas in your life where you’ve avoided accountability?
Step Ten is about progress, not perfection. It helps us to stay grounded in the principles of honesty, humility, and integrity, allowing us to live more peacefully and authentically.