Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
The Readiness to Change Step Six is about preparation.
Step Six is about preparation. After identifying our character defects in Step Four and acknowledging them in Step Five, we now take the crucial step of becoming entirely ready to let them go. This readiness is not passive—it involves deep reflection and willingness to change the behaviours, thoughts, and attitudes that keep us stuck.
Character defects are those traits or patterns—like selfishness, fear, resentment, or dishonesty—that have harmed us and others. They are often rooted in survival mechanisms we developed to cope with life’s challenges. While they may have served us at some point, they no longer serve our growth or recovery. Step Six invites us to recognise this and to open ourselves to transformation.
The key word in this step is “entirely.” Partial readiness is not enough. This step challenges us to let go of excuses, self-justifications, and half-measures. It asks us to confront our resistance and fears: What would life look like without these defects? Who would we be if we no longer relied on these old patterns?
For many of us, this can feel uncomfortable. Change is rarely easy, and we may cling to certain defects out of fear or habit. Step Six is not about achieving perfection or eliminating every flaw overnight. It’s about developing a mindset of openness and a willingness to trust that change is possible with the help of our Higher Power.
For GBTQ+ individuals, this step can be particularly liberating. Many of us have internalised shame or self-doubt due to societal judgment or rejection. Step Six allows us to let go of these burdens and to embrace a healthier, more authentic sense of self.
Questions for reflection in Step Six include:
- What character defects are holding you back in your recovery?
- Are there any defects you are reluctant to let go of? Why?
- How can you cultivate willingness and readiness for change?
Step Six is a turning point. It prepares us to release what no longer serves us and to move forward with humility and courage.