We admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
Finding Freedom in Sharing the Truth
Step Five builds upon the work of Step Four by inviting us to share the inventory we have created. This step is about confession and connection— admitting our wrongs to God (or a higher power), to ourselves, and to another person. It helps us release the burden of secrecy and shame, replacing them with honesty, humility, and a sense of relief.
The Purpose of Step Five
The purpose of Step Five is to bring what we uncovered in Step Four into the open. Addiction thrives in isolation, but healing begins when we share our truths. This step helps us connect with others, deepen our spirituality, and foster self-acceptance.
Admitting to God
Admitting our wrongs to a higher power is an act of surrender and trust. It is a way of acknowledging that we are not alone in our struggles and inviting spiritual guidance into the process of recovery. For GBTQ+ individuals, this can also be a healing opportunity to redefine a relationship with spirituality in an affirming and inclusive way.
Admitting to Ourselves
Honesty with ourselves is crucial in Step Five. By acknowledging the exact nature of our wrongs, we take responsibility for our actions without minimising or justifying them. This self-awareness fosters growth, helping us move beyond denial and self-deception.
Admitting to Another Human Being
Sharing our inventory with another person can be one of the most powerful aspects of Step Five. This act requires vulnerability but offers profound rewards. By speaking our truths to someone we trust, we experience acceptance, understanding, and connection. It helps us realise that we are not alone in our imperfections and that we are still deserving of love and respect.
Choosing the Right Person
t is important to choose someone who will listen without judgment and maintain confidentiality. This could be a sponsor, a trusted friend, or a spiritual advisor. For GBTQ+ individuals, finding someone who affirms and supports your identity is essential.
The Relief of Letting Go
Many people find Step Five liberating. By sharing our truths, we let go of the burden of secrecy and the fear of being judged. This process helps us forgive ourselves and creates space for healing and transformation.
Building Trust Through Fellowship
The Kindr Fellowship plays a crucial role in Step Five. Knowing that others have walked this path and found freedom through sharing their truths provides encouragement and strength. Fellowship members can also offer guidance on how to approach this step.
Reflection Questions
- How does it feel to share your inventory with someone you trust?
- What fears or resistance do you have about admitting your wrongs?
- How has secrecy or shame affected your life?
- What do you hope to gain from completing Step Five?
Conclusion
Step Five is a transformative step that deepens honesty, trust, and connection. By admitting our wrongs to God, ourselves, and another person, we release the weight of secrecy and create space for healing. For GBTQ+ individuals, this step can also be an opportunity to affirm identity and dismantle internalised shame. Through vulnerability and acceptance, Step Five opens the door to freedom, self-compassion, and a stronger sense of community.